"LOVE ME FOR WHO I AM" Really..??

I was reading TOI e-paper a catchy title “Love me for who I am” hold my attention… I thought this will be related to introspection skewed towards self realization and I started reading the article… After finishing the reading I couldn’t decide what to say and how to react…. I shared the article with one my friend and we were discussing…. Quite a lot points popped up, I was stunned when my friend said that she is feeling bad for that guy and she is alright with the stand this guy has taken... I asked myself if someday my son comes to me proclaims that he likes guys; I will be like lost cow...!!!For most of us its not easy to accept homosexual relationship…!! I believe our generation people started behaving NEUTRAL instead of +ve /-ve till the time it is concerned with some one ELSE. But, when it comes to some one who is our OWN reaction turns NEGATIVE. Imagine your father, boyfriend, husband, brother or son is Gay? How open are we to accept it, and what logic do we have to refute it?? If I can’t take it what reason do I have to give, I disapprove it because, “cause is blank….”??

Form the mentioned article few things are worth noticing-

1- Level of confidence and conviction is very strong

2- Age of the boy 21 and he started thinking he is gay at the age of 14

3- Educated by all the means of academics and access lot of information

4- Good Analytical power

5- Emotional and self centric thinking

Why I said those points are worth noticing is because each of these have relevance in the way this person is thinking and convinced about his thought are just RIGHT.

In the movie Kalyug, Amrita Singh is the owner of porn site and she is convinced with the fact that she is just running the business to cater the need, DEMAND and SUPPLY…!! But she becomes furious and unable to take the fact when her own daughter works for porn site which she herself is running….!!As far as the example of Khjuraho temple is concerned the concept is pretty scientific psychologically…! The sculptures on the outer walls of temple which are erotic and seductive, it is to manifest when a person is going to temple all the lusty desires should be dropped outside and enter inside with purity of mind to be with God. During our course of discussion we discussed about the book Kamasutra which was written in ancient time decades ago and affirms the concept of homosexuality, my stand on that is take the book as it is if you are capable to do so… and if there are books like KS there are numerous books on moral science… there is a certain age to read different kinds of book…. From childhood till teenage its time to built your personality and charecter, the various shades in charecter can be added or removed later on but addition or deletion of color itself in charecter is impossible later…. Nobody can teach qualities like self-respect, dignity, shame etc etc.. Nothing is absolutely right or wrong in this world, its just our perception which decides whether is right or wrong for us… Perception is something which nobody can teach someone or guide in it, rather its governed by ones moral and ethical thoughts…. Being God fearing, respecting and obeying parents since early age directs us to walk on path which is moral and ethical in lot many ways…. I remember an ad for “incredible India” campaign; there were few questions few I can still recall….. Who decides when party is over?Whether prostitution be legalized?Those were really incredible thoughts…. Some thing is called Custom which society by in large makes to be followed by culture and heritage together…. Sometime I really wonder what kind of parenthood I am going to lead..?? When I was a kid there were no comps, internet, mobiles around me, media exposure was also very less…. On the name of TV Channels only doordarshan was there with more of generic programs which doesn’t cater specific sects need unlike today… Being so much addicted to internet and seeing its penetration in all the vital domains of life is difficult to keep myself aloof from it… I don’t know whether parenting is lagging behind or kids are really becoming TRUE westerner by birth, as they are shedding all the walls of culture, tradition, morality…..I remember when I was kid, as usual like all the others I also use to demand lots of things to my parents… I believe they were pretty judgmental to put filter between the need which they are going to fulfill and the other not… and my mother to be on her best given reply “First deserve and then desire”.

Crux is don’t disappoint the child by refuting all the needs on the other hand don’t pamper also by fulfilling all the needs… a right balance is prime requisite, and to achieve that right balance one really requires right acumen…!